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IF ....I understand ....what I was told....when I lived in Colorado.....Most of our cows are brangus and black baldies. We now have two angus bulls. I think we had a charlolais bull when she had this baby.
I used to tease my hubby that every Texas ranch needed a longhorn, when we were dating so he got me one.![]()
It wasn't my choice. Bullheaded ignorant daughters (ignorant because they did not want to listen and did not know just what they were doing) put them there even though that place is a hell hole. They were more concerned with fighting over who gets what and nobody wanting to take "real" responsibility for their parents. I pushed and pushed to get them to at least move them to a better place even though it meant traveling for them an extra hour. (2 rather than 1) He had lost well above his knee left leg from gangrene caused by peripheral vascular disease. Had dementia too that came and went. I know he did not get his pain meds when needed for starters. When he fell, he fell face first from a wheelchair that was not his! He had a special one made to tip back because he always leaned so far forward so he wouldn't fall out when being transported. By the time the "top" daughter in charge was willing to listen, it was too late."Grandad" probably should NOT have been in a "Nursing-Home" anyway.
I WON'T GO there !
- I'll die at home OR maybe...unlikely...in a home of one of my 4 children.
BUT, I will NOT go to a "Nursing Home".
STRAIGHT FACT !!!
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_________________________-It wasn't my choice. Bullheaded ignorant daughters (ignorant because they did not want to listen and did not know just what they were doing) put them there even though that place is a hell hole. They were more concerned with fighting over who gets what and nobody wanting to take "real" responsibility for their parents. I pushed and pushed to get them to at least move them to a better place even though it meant traveling for them an extra hour. (2 rather than 1) He had lost well above his knee left leg from gangrene caused by peripheral vascular disease. Had dementia too that came and went. I know he did not get his pain meds when needed for starters. When he fell, he fell face first from a wheelchair that was not his! He had a special one made to tip back because he always leaned so far forward so he wouldn't fall out when being transported. By the time the "top" daughter in charge was willing to listen, it was too late.
He was on his death bed from a 2 week long misdiagnosis too late to fix - partially collapsed lung, excessive fluid retention, and no pain management. I had to tell the RN he needed his pain med - morphine preferably and where is his atropine because he is aspirating. Her answer? Good idea - I'll let the doctor know to write a prescription right away. Really??? I'm only a certified nurses aide telling an RN what he needs? (I was going to school for lpn at the time - done now and graduated waiting to take my boards.) He never got the pain med he needed as scheduled. All of this portion took place at the hospital which is attached to the nursing home - or used to be until recently. Now the hospital is a brand new one across the highway from Lake Michigan and cost millions of dollars to build. Can sue but it comes down to "he was old considering the current expected life span" so the case would be thrown out. Complaints were filed with the state though for what its worth. Grandma's death was caused by natural causes though. She had copd really bad. A year later and I am still angry with this hospital and nursing home. I'm angry too for the family not listening to me. I've spent the past 6 years working specifically with the geriatric population. With working in home health & hospice I've learned so much. I just wish they would have listened and put their differences aside.Yes, I'd have given anything to have had them home. It would have taken the family working together to make it doable which is something they were not willing to do.